A few tips and things to keep in mind and ask about when making your decision:
Go back unannounced several times, including mealtimes, evenings, weekends, and around shift-change time (3pm).
Take note of what staff are doing before they have noticed that you are there. How are they interacting with residents? Are they wearing name-tags? Are they wearing masks correctly if masking is currently mandatory?
If possible, speak with current residents and any family or friends who may be visiting.
When speaking with administration:
Ask what services are included in the rate you will pay, how and when they determine/reassess the services you/your loved-one will need, and the cost of additional services offered.
Ask how staff assignments are made and if the same aides will be assigned to your MIL consistently.
Discuss your/your loved-one's needs, and any preferences or routines that are important to you/them, like staying up late at night or eating breakfast late. Ask how staff will meet those needs, preferences, and routines.
Ask about and try to observe the activities offered--do they seem meaningful and engaging? (eg. gardening, community service, and chair yoga vs. "ice cream social" and "Sunday matinee")
If relevant, ask about how roommate determinations are made, and how choices and conflicts are managed.
Ask how residents are empowered. Is there an independent resident council? How are resident complaints addressed? What have been some recent resident complaints that have been resolved?
How are families supported? Is there a family council?
Ask about COVID prevention and management.
What safety measures do they have in place for when a resident needs emergency assistance? In what instances paramedics are called/residents are sent to the hospital.
Find out if the facility accepts Medicaid and whether they will guarantee in writing that you/your loved-one can stay after "spending down" and switching to Medicaid.
Ask if the facility requires you to sign a mandatory pre-dispute arbitration clause or agreement in order to be admitted. “Pre-dispute” arbitration means you must agree to arbitration before any dispute – including abuse or neglect – arises. If possible, choose a facility that does not require you to sign such clauses/agreements.
Consider looking at recent inspection reports from RIDOH and CMS CareCompare (not always useful or informative because many deficiencies go uncited).
See if the facilities you are considering are represented in this spreadsheet of the worst deficiencies ("Immediate Jeopardy") in 2021-23. Note this includes nursing homes only, as assisted living facilities are not regulated in the same way as nursing homes.